We have only a limited time on this earth and we need to face the reality that our life goes on after the death of our loved one. When we do, that constant awareness of the limit of our time to live and love should give us the courage to care about others without losing our own health; physically and mentally. The first few years can be pure hell and yet they can contain the beginnings of new joys. These joys start out slowly and require nourishment to grow. When you’re in the midst of your loss, you may not notice these gleams of light. You may not be paying attention to these newborn sources of happiness, but they are there and some day you will be ready to receive them.