Discouraging feelings keep you thinking about what you can't do instead of what you can do.  They stop you from doing anything except feeling sorry for yourself. Stop and think - You don't have to stay discouraged.  Don't listen to that gloomy inner voice that says "I'll never be happy again".  We all have a choice and we can work to change our inner voice and refuse to be discouraged.  Take one step at a time and think of what positive things you have in your life. It's easy to get discouraged about all aspects of your life when your grieving.  Take  steps on your journey from grieving to healing by being good to yourself.