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Encouraging Widows to Dream
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What I’ve discovered is that a lot of widows have misconceptions about what they want. I want to help prepare you for a new future so that you can have something to look forward to.
Do you have dreams that are worthy of your time? Dreams that give you something to get out of bed for? A dream worth pursuing is a valuable commodity. Dreams move us forward, give us energy and make us enthusiastic about life. Every widow ought to have a dream and I’m here to encourage you to dream and not lose hope.
Not all dreams have to be huge to be worth of your time. They just need to be big enough to stretch you and strong enough to keep you working towards them even when times get tuff.
The world is filled with dream crushers that love to knock other’s dreams. They may not be pursuing any dreams of their own or maybe they are trying to protect you from more pain. Either way, it’s never too late to plan your future and pursue your dreams.
As widows we’ve had our planned future taken away but we must get back on our feet and start planning a new future. It may be easy to settle for average, to blame our problems on others, on our circumstances or lack of money. Please don’t settle for less than you deserve just to avoid more change.
If you don’t have a reason to move forward your life may slip away. Good enough is not good enough and one of life’s greatest tragedies is a widow with a great capacity for life but does nothing with it.
Widows – if you feel that your life is small and you have no future, you need to dream more. Nothing will help you break out of your rut faster than a worthwhile dream that you are passionate about.
Make a bucket list of dreams from small to big and then start checking them off as you do them. Start with the dreams that are easy to do and feel how energized and alive you feel as you accomplish them.
I remember sitting in my bedroom tired of being tired. I make up a list of ten things I wanted to do in the next twelve months. It was empowering just to do the list and have a plan, a future. Six months after Donnie’s death I took a motorcycle course and got my license. I can’t explain how empowered I felt from checking it off my list. It gave me a small taste of living a positive life.
Dreams are vital to our grief journey so take a moment to dream and plan.