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Grief and Valentine’s Day
By Mary Francis · Originally published: February 13, 2017
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There is no special occasion as hurtful as Valentine’s Day for highlighting that you no longer have your loved one and that you are now a widow.
They say grief brings people closer together. It’s not true – grief is isolating. It takes hold of your heart and doesn’t let go.
We need others, in ways that can’t really be explained. I think our broken hearts need to feel supported and cared for. Yes, there is something healing about being cared for and loved by others - knowing that if we no longer existed, we would be missed.
This poem is from the book “Chicken Soup for the Grieving Soul”. I want to pass it on to everyone that has had to say good-bye to a loved one.
I Wish You Enough
. I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright,
. I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun more,
. I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive,
. I wish you enough pain so that the smallest joy appears bigger,
. I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting,
. I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess,
. I wish you enough “hellos” to get you through the final “good-bye”.
Did you ever say good-bye to someone knowing it would be forever? Recognizing that their time is short and so taking the time to tell them how much they meant to you. I love this poem because I think if they were here for Valentine’s Day our loved ones would say “I Wish You Enough”.