When I was a child I thought that if I was good and did what I was supposed to that life would be easy and I wouldn’t have any troubles.  When I grew up I learned that troubles come naturally to everyone.

Sometimes we widows become discouraged because we don’t understand why our loved ones died. Pain, grief and loss are part of living and good people suffer just as bad people do.  Troubles are not reserved for only bad people or kept from the good people.  The truth is that heartaches come to everyone.

It’s extreme to expect life to be mostly fun, but it’s also extreme to expect life to be mostly unhappy.  Life is generally along the middle with its fair share of both fun and unhappiness.  We can’t afford to stay angry with life because it may lead us to a “victim” mind set.

The widow who rises up to meet the demands of being single, will be able to work through all the challenges that come her way.  She knows that life has trials but instead of resenting it, she grabs life and demands the best it has to give.

For many widows, grief continues to hold power over them long after their loss.  If we find comfort in it, if we find safety in it, we might never totally free ourselves from it.

That is not to say that grief’s power is irresistible.  Widows heal every day, but the power of grief must be recognized and acknowledged so that it doesn’t have a chance to turn into depression.

Grief is a battle that has to be fought, but eventually grief should be won over by our healing spirit.   Just be on guard because grief is powerful and may over take us if we are not diligent.