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Choose to Heal Your Broken Heart
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At one time or another every widow needs to heal. In every instance of grief, you choose to heal your broken heart or risk being stuck.
We have gotten pretty good at physically healing, but sadly our ability to heal emotionally and spiritually is often hampered by our grief. We can’t just ignore our emotional and spiritual wounds hoping that they will simply fade away – they will not!
When we lose our husbands, we mourn and grieve, our souls are sick and our pain may seem almost too much to bear.
As our grieving days come and go, we start to have an occasional good day, week or month, until at some level healing is taking place in our broken lives. Almost every widow is fortunate to have the ability within to heal from hurts, rather than being locked forever in their grief.
This isn’t just about the isolation you feel or the people who may have abandoned you, it is also about the shattered dreams and being lost in the moment.
Do you want to heal? There has to be a “want to” before you can move forward from grief to healing. Without realizing it, have you become comfortable in your grief, being disconnected from the pressures of life and change?
Has your grief become a protective wall, so that you don’t have to think about your future? Are you lost, refusing to make some healing chooses. But instead choosing to remain stuck in anger, loneliness and bitterness because you are no longer a wife.
I am thrilled that most widows do grieve and then finally come to the place of healing. I am sure that if that is what you desire, you will experience healing and joy again.
I don’t know how long you have been a widow, but I do know there will come a time to pick up your broken life by doing some things that will take you out of your comfort zone and push you into the scary world of change.
There are no quick fixes or instant solutions to our grief. Don’t be discouraged or lose hope because I know there are many methods of emotional and spiritual healing available to you, but the choice to seek them out is yours to make.
Can you create a vision of what would happen if you stepped out of your isolation to seek the healing you needed? Yes, you need to grieve, but your life has changed and although it’s a hard reality to face, you need to embrace the life you now have.