Widows often ask themselves, "How do I mend my broken heart?"  I know, it seems impossible, but you can make it through your grief.  Widows are not passive observers of their life – they are active participants and their broken hearts happen through them, not to them. We can heal what we are ready to acknowledge and accept our grief, and it’s all on us as no one else can mend our broken hearts for us. What did you need and want, but did not ask for, what you know in your heart, but chose to ignore anyway? Rather than retelling the hurts that have happened, get clear about who you want to be moving forward.  Focus on asking for what you need and want, to support your new future.  To truly feel better, you must be committed to taking action steps.  You must make that first move, that hard first step, no matter how difficult. Give yourself permission to try and fail.  Give yourself all the time you need and know that you simply cannot feel this sad forever, your broken heart will heal. You need something else from life, something new.  Go with an open mind.  Try things out, life is full of possibilities.  The future shouldn’t be about finding just the right thing to fill the void.  You don’t need a specific solution, a magic fix; instead you need a new outlook for embracing and trying out new things. Be determined to have a future filled with adventures and people you haven’t yet dreamed of. You turn a corner in your grief journey and see all that is available – don’t hold back. This is where you need to pick friends wisely.  Like attracts like and if you are in a negative mindset your friends are probably supporting you in all ways – both good and bad. Look for friends that have positive qualities that will not only help you mend your broken heart, but also support you as you try out new things.