Is it “okay to skip Christmas?”
Absolutely - There is nothing wrong with taking a break from the holidays, especially when your grief is fresh. A break can mean turning down invitations to parties or to step back from parts of the holiday season that are too difficult to share without a husband. Some take a trip away so they don’t have to deal with any of the festive season. Others redefine what the holidays are like and they start new Christmas traditions which bring them peace and serenity during a stressful time. If taking a break from the holidays isn’t quite acceptable, here are some ways to make this time easier:- Acknowledge that the Holiday Season will be different.
- Accept and be honest with the way you are feeling.
- Express your emotions in your unique way – talking, writing, music, prayer.
- Plan ahead. - Share tasks and accept your limitations.
Sometimes it quite simple - you just don't want any part of the season. You are grieving and need the time to do so without pretending to be happy. Don't feel guilty for something that is normal and healthy. You have to grieve before you can heal. If you find the season just to much to bear than skip what you can. Find time for yourself and don't worry about socializing if your not up to it.