Living Apart Together

Are you thinking about dating again? It’s a big decision for most widows so I thought I would let you know about the big trend for our generation called “Living Apart Together”.

It’s the new thing for us boomers – we are committed to this new relationship, we are completely faithful to each other but are not getting married or living together.

It’s the widows who are making the decision to be “LATs” or “Apartners” as it’s sometimes called. One of the reasons is financial – they want to ensure that their assets are left to their children. That may get complicated if you live together so this keeps it clean and easy.

The other reason is that men want to be married or living together because they get taken care of. Widows are getting wise to this and are keeping it as a faithful “dating relationship”.

Getting married does create a psychological shift and the expectations change when you’re married or living together. But for some, marriage is the goal and if that’s you than go for it. But if it isn’t then I hope this little postings has helped you realize that you’re not alone in the “Living Apart Together” world.

Mary Francis, The Sisterhood of Widows

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