Myth #3: If you don’t cry now, it’ll be worse later – The Sisterhood of Widows Blog Archive

Gentle guidance: Myth #3: If you don’t cry now, it’ll be worse later

This post is part of Mary’s archived writings from 2010–2025. Some older posts may mention products, courses or shop items that are no longer available. Mary’s book is still available on Amazon , and she now offers her active support inside her private Facebook group for widows .

Myth #3: If you don’t cry now, it’ll be worse later

By Mary Francis · Originally published: October 5, 2011

Archive notice: This is a historical post from Mary’s years of blogging. Some older posts may mention products, courses or shop items that are no longer available, as Mary now focuses her time and energy on supporting widows inside her private Facebook community. The guidance and stories remain here as a free resource for widows.

For current ways to connect with Mary’s work, you can:

Read her book on Amazon .
Request to join her private Facebook group for widows .

Some people never cry. Tears or outward expressions of anguish simply aren’t everyone’s grieving style, says psychologist Neimeyer. This doesn’t mean they’re grieving less then someone who is visibly shaken or that they didn't love the person just as much. Nor does a lack of obvious emotion mean the griever has an emotional problem or will fall apart at a later date or that they will have a harder adjustment to the loss. It just means quite simply that everyone is different in all aspects of their lives and that includes grieving.