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Never Give Up
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There is always a way so please never give up. Your grief journey will not be easy and it won’t be quick. Your grief journey may be up and down, but if you never give up you will find a way.
I want you to promise yourself that you will never say, “I give up”. If you just step back, even when there seems to be no way, there is always a way. This is your journey, never stop trying and believing in yourself. Instead, say, “I will never give up”.
When we widows do not take care of ourselves we suffer from health problems that are related to our stress. Please do everything you can do to improve your physical health. Make today the day to do one small change. A life style change to make you feel better and stronger – just one small change.
It could be as simple as drinking more water and less soft drinks, or perhaps you discipline yourself to going to bed at the same time every night. How about no T.V., computer or phone for 30 minutes before bed time. Instead take that time to write out your day in your personal journal.
Is worry, fear or stress giving you headaches and making you tired? Don’t give up, instead see your doctor and find out what you can do to feel better. Don’t settle for poor health when you can make changes to feel well and more energetic.
Another thing I don’t want you to give up on is your finances. So many widows are struggling to pay their bills, let alone save anything. Educate yourself on how to break free from debt. Bookstores and free libraries are full of resources, and don’t hesitate to ask others what has helped them.
You can eliminate debt, but it takes discipline and determination so don’t give up. It isn’t a quick journey or easy, but you can do it.
One last thing, I want you never to give up on your loved ones. They don’t understand your grief, how could they if they haven’t lost their own spouse. So please be patient with them and if necessary just spend less time with them as you find your own place in this world. Once you get rebalanced you will be able to handle loved ones that are currently too stressful to be around.
The truth is, our grief journey doesn’t have a finishing line. We love them till the day we die. What is important is that we never give up. It helps to set small goals that require you to show up and do something. Stick with it and don’t let others discourage you. Never give up on the greatness inside of you, believe in your uniqueness and be your biggest fan.