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No Regrets
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In the dark, long days of grief, it’s natural to spend time internally focused, looking back over our lives. We should learn from our past, grow from our decisions, have no regrets, and come to a place of greater wisdom and clarity.
But sometimes regret takes over and it affects our moods and health. I’m convinced that regret prevents us from grieving and healing. It keeps us stuck in the past and destroys our peace of mind.
The key to controlling regret is to learn from it and then let it go. Use positive rationalization to minimize negative feelings over regrettable actions.
Yes, we need our grief time, but we cannot heal by seeking it in a past we cannot change or a future we have little control over. Healing can be found only in the present moment. Healing of our broken hearts comes when we accept our life – what it was, is and will be.
That doesn’t mean widows forget their past or don’t make plans for the future. The place of power, is the time between both past and future – your present moment.
I think that there will always be some regrets, but I've learned to say "It is what it is" and accept it. Wouldn't it be nice if we could rewind our lives and change the things we regret? Are there any stories of regrets out there and if so how did you handle them? By sharing our stories we can help each other to grieve and heal.
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