This may sound completely opposite to what you have always heard but I think self-care begins with learning to be selfish. The word “selfish” has a negative feel to it but when you put yourself first you will have extra energy to be there for the people in your life. Initially, you may feel uncomfortable with being selfish. You might feel guilty, uncaring, unspiritual or even worried about what others think. You need to tell your family and friends that you’ve decided to take care of your “self” first. Some people in your life may not understand, they figure you can be there 24/7 because you don’t have anyone at home. But remember your life has to have value and let them know that you’ll end up becoming a better mother, grandmother and friend. Over time, they will realize that self-care is actually the greatest gift you can give them because it will restore your energy and joy of life. Self-care begins with becoming familiar with your needs and getting to know yourself. Over the next few days I am going to outline some action steps to help you be “selfish” and they will in turn set in motion opportunities for you to be happy and contented.