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Widows need all the help they can get when grieving - so take some time to explore the power of mindfulness.
Taking some time to release our tension and stress is an act of self-compassion. If you ever want to get back your sense of balance and joy you need to ask and answer the following questions:
- How often do you take time to relax? I mean to really stop and be aware that you are relaxing.
2. How does social media fit into your relaxing time? Does social media help you relax, causes more tension, increases your sadness or do you rarely use it?
3. Have you tried to relax using meditation? Meditation shouldn't be another "have to" that increases your stress.
4. What do you use for self-care? Many widows try to get outside, listen to music, get a massage, read a good book. The power is in enjoying, being mindful of this time to de-stress and enjoy.
Here is a very simple example of being mindful:
- Pour yourself a glass of water.
- Notice the weight of the glass in your hand, and
- how cool the water feels in your mouth.
- Feel it go down your throat.
- Let the moment refresh you in body and spirit.
That is just how simple being mindful can be.
A study at the University of Pittsburgh concluded that having an attitude of acceptance/mindfulness and by paying attention to our experiences can increase social connection and reduce loneliness.
An app that is commonly used is called "Calm". It gets you to be in the present moment. See if you can do it on trial and never pay for anything without first trying it out.
Widow fog is real - when you know you need to do something but you just can't focus. When grieving it's nearly impossible to focus on one task, even getting out of bed can be a challange.
Another thing to try "Name Three Things" by Ali Katz, using it to refocus in the moment. Google it for more information.
