People are not born successful.  They work hard and are focused and persistent.  Mistakes must be made, new solutions discovered and difficult situations endured. Be active and involved in something you care about.  This activity will in turn give you tremendous enthusiasm and excitement for what your doing. Widows that get back their balance often believe that they have a purpose.  When they suffer setbacks, they view them as part of life's lessons and they keep going.  Their grief has helped them develop their robustness and persistence. They learn from life's experiences by making a conscious effort to do so.  From the time we are born to the day we die, we are learning what life is and using this experience to change and grow.  That's what life is all about - change.  The only real constant in life is that it isn't constant.  Things and people change and you need to believe in yourself and know yourself.  These two qualities will serve you as you grow stronger.