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Re-entry into the Single Life
Archive notice: This is a historical post from Mary’s years of blogging. Some older posts may mention products, courses or shop items that are no longer available, as Mary now focuses her time and energy on supporting widows inside her private Facebook community. The guidance and stories remain here as a free resource for widows.
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You have travelled the grief journey and have come to the point where you are ready to start your life as a single person. It will be a different life from when you were young and single. You’re older, wiser and a bit more nervous.
Death shakes our self-awareness of who we are. If you’re not Mrs. … anymore, who are you? Before re-entry into single living you must redefine yourself.
First step is to learn to be a single person, ready and able to face life alone. Then the next step is learning to love again after you have rebuilt your life and learned to love yourself.
How do we first learn to love ourselves? When you learn to accept yourself as you are, that gives you permission to grow, change and become more the person you want to be.
We have all had traumatic experiences that have left us wounded. But those events are part of life and part of living. We are not perfect and never will be. When we learn to accept our faults, “it’s okay to not be okay”, then we begin to feel more valued.
It’s important to love yourself, to give yourself permission to be the person you are. Your life is in your control so let yourself feel love for yourself – it is the way life is meant to be.