In the summer time we Widows get tired of being by ourselves. It seems like everyone is busy with family and friends except us.

When we do connect with others it's a quick Facebook message or phone call. But there's a cost to not spending "face to face" time with our friends. How can we heal, express our deepest sorrows, hurts and losses if we don't spend time with our friends? An online friendship or phone call just somehow misses the mark. So much of what we feel is revealed in what others see in our actions, facial expressions and tone of voice.

We all have busy lives, so you will find that some family and friends don't have time for you jurying the busy summer months. Therefore, it's up to you to make your friendships a priority because social connection is what you need.

The single most important cause of positive feelings is defined as "knowing exactly what is expected and getting it done". Friends need to know what is going on in your life and how they fit into the big picture. You can communicate with them at a deeper level when you do it "face to face".

Ask them out to a meal, coffee, movie, shopping etc. Take the first step and you will be able to book some time with them. If you don't take that step they may feel that you have things to do or that you enjoy your time alone. Don't stay home alone this summer, get out and enjoy it with some old friends or make an effort to meet some new friends.

Getting out of your comfort zone isn't always easy, but it will do you good!