To "survive" as per the dictionary means "to live after the death of another person; to continue, endure; to come through alive". I think that surviving widowhood is more than just "coming through alive".  It's a journey where you grow stronger and more independent.  You really have no choice because grief wants to take over your life.  You will not "come through alive" - in fact you will just be letting the world pass you by. Do more than "survive" - get to know yourself and come out swinging.  Stand up and fight for a life that is full of friends and family.  Join groups, volunteer, find your passion and just go do it.  Don't feel bad that your the one that's alive - instead be even more alive by seeking out positive people.  Be a survivor in more than body - be a survivor in your heart and soul.