When we become a "widow" we are no longer a "wife" - its hard to know who we are.
How well do we really know, like and trust ourselves? This is a critical question that we all face as we travel our grief journey. Sometimes, we are our own worse enemy as we let negative beliefs take control.
You need to began to like yourself and follow your own path. My advice to any widow is to be clear about who you are - take the time to figure out who you really are, what you really enjoy doing and what your strengths are.
As widows, the need to know ourselves is doubly important because we tend to undervalue our strengths. You can be true to yourself and the first step is just to have the courage to laugh at yourself - it will get you pass doubt and fear.
Don't be afraid to ask other widows questions, listen to how they learned to be true to themselves. Their experience will help you but only seek out widows that have already shown their strength and are not still grieving themselves.
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Archive notice: This is a historical post from Mary’s years of blogging. Some older posts may mention products, courses or shop items that are no longer available, as Mary now focuses her time and energy on supporting widows inside her private Facebook community. The guidance and stories remain here as a free resource for widows.
For current ways to connect with Mary’s work, you can:
- Read her book on Amazon .
- Request to join her private Facebook group for widows .