As a widow do you ever find yourself saying, "Oh no, I'll never be able to do that"  - without even giving it a try?  Look at your excuses and see them for the falsehoods they are.  You can create your desire if you want it enough to be a bit uncomfortable for a while. I like the saying "I am responsible for my thoughts and by changing my thinking, I can change my life".  The New Year is in a few weeks and I know that 2011 will be the year that I take responsiblitiy for my life. I guess that means that I have to dust off those old goal setting books and read up on my values and mission statement.  But that's a bit of work and for the moment I'm going to settle into the holiday season and make the best of it.