Do you wonder how long you are going to live?  I was very surprised about how often I thought of that after Donnie died.  I was only fifty and yet I realized that I was more than half way through my life. You still have a lot of years left and so what are your plans?  What do you plan to do with yourself after you have adjusted to being on your own? It may be helpful to make a vision board of where you want to go and look at the potential things you might accomplish in your own life. Planning will bring the future into your present day and help you to move towards something positive. If you don’t plan than the years will slip away and opportunities will be missed.  Life is so mixed up when you lose your loved one and it takes an effort to untangle all our emotions and create a future. I’m still untangling my own emotions and it’s been over four years.  There is no quick fix to making a new life but I’m here to tell you that no one is going to do it for you.  At least no one should be doing it for you! You are a strong woman and you need to step up and claim a future that you will be happy in.