As widows we seem to be more in touch with our senses and therefore more open to seeing the signs that a late husband may send to comfort us.   I believe that our husbands are out there looking out for us and we just need to look for the signs. One of the widows in the book is a nurse and she talked about how she was mowing the lawn and was angry at her husband for not being there.  She said “the least you could do is send me a four leaf clover”.  The next day a friend called and asked her to check her medical journals for the side effects of a certain drug.  When the widow looked up the drug it had a picture of a four leaf clover on its description. Another widow told me that she often hears footsteps in the house and the bedroom lamp sometimes goes off and on as if it had an electrical short (she had it checked and it doesn’t).  She finds comfort in these signs and takes it that her husband is keeping a watch over her. This weekend I went down to our cottage by the ocean and while I was mowing the lawn I found a bunch of Iris flowers off to the side.  We had never had Iris flowers growing wild before but I found it strangely comforting.  You see the Iris is the flower I had chosen four years ago to feature in my book ”The Sisterhood of Widows”.  The Iris flower stands for strength in times of trouble. Have you ever felt or seen something that you believe is a sign from your loved one?   Some may say that these are not signs from our loved ones but just coincidences.  That’s ok because everyone has a right to their own opinion but if it brings you comfort don’t worry about what others think.