A healing widow does not kid herself.  She knows that she runs the risk of depression and she forces herself to face reality on a daily basis.  She takes time to evaluate her life in the glaring light of what is really happening instead of what she thinks should be happening.  A healing widow knows that anything can and will happen and she plans for her future. She is well aware of her past memories, but still resides in the here and now.  A healing widow knows in her heart that life is more important than any amount of money.  She knows who she is, where she is going, and how she will get there.  That doesn’t come easy – in fact that knowledge comes at a price. This widow spends the time necessary to get the support and encouragement she needs.  She doesn’t kid herself that it will be easy or that she will be happy in a few months - instead she works hard at finding her balance and accepting life as it is.