A widow's world could be so much more than just the grief.  I trust in a Higher Power greater than myself, because I could never have imagined my life as it is today.  If left to myself my world would be small and very boring. Widows have to open themselves to the dreams and passions that the Higher Power has for them.  Having said that, the dream just doesn't happen - you need to believe enough in it to take the necessary action steps. As a widow your job now is to discover what course you want to take moving forward.  You have to quiet yourself down and listen to your inner voice.  You will find it when you are at peace and are happy in what you're doing - when it fills you up instead of draining you of all your energy. Set a course - your true calling will give you happiness, inner peace and self confidence.  It doesn't mean that your journey will go a straight line but at least you will have set a course for who you believe yourself to be. Don't focus on fear, insecurity, loneliness and stress.  Instead, turn your gaze to the changes you want to make, because focusing on what you want brings positive attention to it. Sometimes you have to go through the pain before you can find the joy in life again.  When your ready start setting a course and be willing to move towards it.