Sometimes when we lose our loved ones our grief is so intense and we are so lonely we just want to give up. Below is a message from one widow: “I knew things were bad when I realized that I was just waiting to die.  I didn’t care about anything and it seemed to me like time was at a standstill.” This is a widow that is slipping from a healthy grief into depression.  If you feel this way please reach out to widows, counselors, pastors or others that can help you travel your grief journey. Personally I found that getting out of the house, joining groups and doing new things kept my mind off myself and helped me to heal.  I had to find out who I was because I was no longer a “wife” and that threw me off balance. It’s too hard to get rebalance by yourself.  Staying in the house and not socializing is dangerous because the less you socialize the less you want to.  Force yourself to make a new life because the cold, hard fact is that your old life is no more.  The sooner you get back out in the world the easier it will be to find yourself. That is not to say that your grief will go away because there is no magic answer for our pain.  But you will be able to handle your grief better if you find your balance and avoid falling into depression.  Depression is dangerous because it slips into our lives and takes over without our knowing it.