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Patience and Understanding
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I spoke to alot of widows this weekend that are all at different stages of their "grieving and healing" journey. It made me think of how we progress in our thinking and how our frame of mind also changes.
When Donnie died I was upset with him because he smoked, drinked and had bad eating habits and I blamed him. Thank goodness that Donnies family understood that was just my frame of mind at that point of time. Months later I understood Donnie just didn't know how his choices were affecting his life. This caused a change in my frame of mind.
Please be patient with widows as they voice their feelings and remember that it is just their frame of mind at that moment. It's not right or wrong, it's just how they are feeling. Understand that tomorrow or the next month their frame of mind could be totally different. In other words- please cut them some slack if their frame of mind is not what you think it should be.
I know that there were times that I was overly sensitive to comments made. On the other hand I was also not sensitive enough to the suffering of others. I guess that's why life is a journey and I learn as I go along. If on my journey I have offended someone I hope that they will also cut me some slack. We women are emotional creatures which can be both a blessing and a curse.