The first time I went out to a movie without Donnie it was with a group of friends.  It didn’t feel right and I couldn’t wait to get back home.  I had thought, “ It will do me good to get out” but I was not ready. As you think ahead to any activity or celebration, plan the timing so you are in control of when you want to leave and plan ahead on how you will handle memories that will pull at your heart. It is a balance act to get out and socialize and yet on the other hand you need time to just rest and grieve.  The main thing is that in time you do get out and that you plan ahead.  Sometimes, it’s best to take an understanding friend, especially if it’s a social with mostly couples. Try to have reasonable expectations because the fact is it will never be the same again.  So it is okay to plan and be realistic about what you can handle, both physically and emotionally.  Slowly, you will be able to find joy in these outings and you will find your path.