When our loved ones die our lives and the people in them are forever changed and broken relationships happen. When we are grieving, our friendships may experience some difficulties.  There is an art to knowing when a friendship can be fixed and when it's beyond repair. Admit it, there are some people you no longer want to spend time with.  There is no use pretending that you still enjoy being with them or that they want to be with you.  You could analyze this forever - their fault, your fault, or someone else's fault - it doesn't really matter.

Friendships - Good and Bad

We need to acknowledge our good friends.  Let them know that they are important to you and cultivate your friendship by making time for them.  But for other friends, by trying to avoid hurting their feelings, you may hurt them even more.  By not accepting the end, you just generate rumors and even more difficulty.  This never works and will hang over you until you deal with the fact that you are both on different paths. Friends come and go throughout our lives, and as widows we are much more aware of who we want to be with.  If you go down another path, do so quickly and cleanly.  It not only hurts you, but also them to avoid the truth that the friendship has run its course. If you are not careful you will waste too much time and put too much effort into something that is beyond repair.  On the other hand, you never want to walk away from a relationship that can be repaired. Think this out - what will you lose if you never see them again?  You must imagine, in detail, your future without them.  Than make your decision - no half way because you either want this relationship or you don't. #thesisterhoodofwidows