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1 - Be Kind and Courteous No bullying, cursing, or disrespectful comments. Do not criticize another member. If you can’t be supportive then pass by their post and don’t comment. 2 - Respect Everyone’s Beliefs Respect everyone’s life style and beliefs. You can talk about your faith/bible/religious beliefs but do not preach or quote bible verses (as they come across as preaching). Don’t post anything to do with politics. 3 - No Videos, Links or Gifs Allowed No "Links" or “GIFs” of any kind allowed. Links are often hidden in the name of where you got the inspirational message/ quote or if posting from a business internet. If you can click on the name/post and it takes you out of the group, then it has a link. No "Videos" of any kind allowed. No YouTube, Personal videos, Facebook videos or games/polls, etc. This is not your personal Facebook page. Videos, Links and Gifs are often used to collect your personal information or contain hacks/scams. These posts/comments will be deleted. 4 - No Marketing/Promoting/Selling No marketing/promoting/selling to members. No using members for your book research, to build up your chat or Facebook group, for your business – insurance, diets, mediums, travel, coaching, etc. No asking members for anything – money, go fund me, etc. OR to do anything with you. Don’t join to use the members for your own purpose, it will get you removed and banned from the group. 5 - Suicide Postings This group is not trained to advice widows who are suicidal. A post about suicide is treated seriously, the post will be removed and message sent with information about the Suicide Help Line. 6 - Privacy Don’t post your STREET address, phone number or email address. It is unsafe to post too much private information in any online group. Never, ever share anything posted within this group to anyone that is NOT a member. No sending private messages, “friend requests” or in any way contacting another member unless they have given you permission to do so while still within the group. Be careful about who you accept as a Facebook friend.All Blog Postings by Mary
From Wife to Widow
Archive notice: This is a historical post from Mary’s years of blogging. Some older posts may mention products, courses or shop items that are no longer available, as Mary now focuses her time and energy on supporting widows inside her private Facebook community. The guidance and stories remain here as a free resource for widows.
For current ways to connect with Mary’s work, you can:
- Read her book on Amazon .
- Request to join her private Facebook group for widows .
No one can possibility understand the transition from wife to widow unless they have travelled that path themselves.
When our husband died we started living in this time of change, loneliness and often fear. This is where a widow needs to let herself grieve her loss – loss of her husband and her plans for the future.
It’s okay to vent, to be frustrated and even to be angry. It doesn’t mean you are a victim – you are grieving and that is a healthy part of your journey.
Then comes a time when you are ready for the transition, your open to changes and you take responsibility for your life by making positive changes.
I used to fear my grief, for it made me uncomfortable to have so little control over my tears and emotions. Over time my crazy emotions quieted down and I was open to the transition.
Was it easy – No!! Is acceptance of the need for change necessary – Yes!!
If you don’t accept the transition from wife to widow, then you can get stuck in your grief. Look into the new social norm of “support groups” and “medication” for those grieving.
We go looking for support groups for widows and find self-help groups, personal growth groups, spiritual groups, groups for both men and women, and for just widows.
These groups are much more beneficial then grieving on our own. It’s so important that we don’t struggle by ourselves as we go from being a wife to a widow. It also helps to reach out to other widows with the same issues and concerns.
Widows supporting and encouraging each other as we grieve and heal is priceless when you are your lowest.
My Facebook group, “The Sisterhood of Widows – Private Group for Widows” is an online group of widows from around the world that support and encourage each other. The group is free and the rules are strictly enforced.