I've spent alot of time talking to widows and their families these last two days. I'm writing today for the families because they want to help but are struggling on how to approach their loved ones. My advise is let them have their time of grief and not to push them. The best thing to do is buy them motivational books, CD's and DVD's that they can watch and listen to when they are ready. The gift may not be opened for months but it will be there for them. Everyone's grief is different and they have to progress through the pain to the healing.