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Regrets As A Widow
By Mary Francis · Originally published: October 25, 2010
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I had never seen a man shave until I got married. I think I had this picture in my mind of a perfect marriage and I didn’t realize that couples do argue and that marriage can be difficult. I was hard on Donnie and when he was alive I blamed all of our problems on him, but now I realize that it was both of us.
Donnie started drinking when his father died and he had to go to the morgue to identify the body. Donnie was soft hearted and he never got over seeing his father like that. He couldn’t shake that picture from his mind and it always bothered him. I wish I had him back so I could tell him how much I appreciate how he loved me, his romantic ways and how hard he worked to provide for his family.
I think that there will always be some regrets, but I've learned to say "It is what it is" and accept it. Wouldn't it be nice if we could rewind our lives and change the things we regret? Are there any stories of regrets out there and if so how did you handle them. By sharing our stories we can help each other to grieve and heal.