Social Events are hard to go to when we are grieving.  It’s a domino effect, having an active social life means lots of people care about your well-being, which in turn makes you more likely to take care of yourself and that helps you grieve in a healthy way - but it's still hard to go out. .

"Social Events" from my “Holidays and Special Occasions” Guide

Instead of thinking you’re the only one having a tough time mingling, look to the right and left of you and find someone who may be hiding by the food looking a little shy and uncomfortable. By introducing yourself and helping them get over their shyness, it takes the pressure off you and makes you feel less self-conscious. Arrive early so you can start conversations with fewer people and relax yourself into the party. We all like people who are similar to us. So at a party, mirror the other person’s body language. Example: if someone is a slow talker, take your time and match their pace. People are drawn to a ‘power’ posture; put your shoulders back, open up your stance and smile. Power is about making the other person feel welcomed by holding eye contact. Simply holding their gaze makes them feel respected and that feeling is then reflected back to you. Really listen and refer back to what they said with the phrase ‘you were saying….’ It makes them feel that what they say matters to you. Fear of small talk; what if you don’t have anything to talk about? Make a small goal of talking to just one person within two minutes of arriving at the get together. Visualize yourself having a good time, chatting with people and smiling. The truth is, just being interested in what others have to say and really listening to them, is the key to making your evening more enjoyable.  

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