I work with widows teaching workshops like “Take Back Your Life” and the Grief Recovery Method.  A couple of times I’ve had widows come repeatedly to see me.  I finally had to tell them that I could not help them as they started to lean on me to show them the way to live their own life.  And I don’t think anyone should look to someone else for all the answers. Once we turn outside, looking to someone else as the “expert” who can give us the answers to our grief, we’re already on someone else’s path. There are certainly many things widows can do to improve their lives and experts can offer solid ideas and advice to help.  But no one has all the answers for you. We are all wonderfully and amazingly unique and that’s what makes our journey so special.  Who could possibly know all that you need, other than you? You can do anything, you can be anything you want to be, you can go as far as you imagination will take you.  The solution is not out in the world, but with the way you see the world.  You are in control, so take back your life. Can I tell you something?  It’s normal to be sad and lonely.  The abnormal thing is to be act as if everything is ok when it’s not.  Each and every one of us has the ability to create our future and it doesn’t need an expert, self-help books and workshops.  It mainly takes the ability to believe in yourself and take the path that leads you towards a deeper connection with other people. Our path to healing is in our need for community, the need to bond with other people.  This is important because we learn to love ourselves by loving others. Human beings are tribal animals and we crave intimacy and connection.  We take back our lives through the richness of our connections to others.  It’s only when we really open ourselves up to others that we can appreciate how great our world is and how important a part we play in it.

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