Going through the first holiday season as a newly widowed lady can be excruciating. Not only do you feel out of sorts because your rituals have been disrupted, but it can be awkward for friends and family who aren’t sure what to do with you. They may invite you over for a holiday meal but as a single person you may feel like the odd person out, which isn’t much fun! Lonely widows know and understand the plight of other lonely widows in a way that those who aren’t widowed don’t. There are quite a few of us who wish the season would pass quickly so we can find some relief from all this holiday cheer. This time of year is difficult no matter where you are, but by planning ahead you can make the best of the situation. Opting to celebrate as usual may be your choice, but keep in mind that the celebration will never be the same without your loved one. Prepare yourself for those feelings. If celebrating seems too difficult to bear consider doing something completely different. A lonely widow may find a desirable holiday destination (family, friends or even a trip away) to start creating a new tradition of her own. Whatever you do, make sure that you care for yourself and that you stay away from anyone who might make you feel bad about yourself or your situation.