Widows have to work to get re-balanced after the death of their loved ones and one of the best things is to talk more positively to ourselves.  Words are powerful and they can make us feel worse or they can have a less negative affect if we just modify them a bit. Try these simple word changes and see how they can transform a negative into a more neutral and therefore more controlled situation: Negative Emotion           To                           More Neutral angry                                    to                            disenchanted afraid                                    to                            uncomfortable anxious                                to                            concerned depressed                            to                            on the road to recovery disappointed                        to                            delayed disgusted                             to                            surprised failure                                   to                            learning frustrated                             to                            challenged humiliated                            to                            uncomfortable hurt                                      to                            bothered I could go on and on, but by now you should see how powerful words can be and how there will be a huge effect on your emotional energy by only slightly changing them.